Useful Chinese phrases: Pick-up lines

Today's Chinese phrases will be all about pick-up lines: How do I start conversations with a lovely Chinese woman? I know that this should belong to the beginning of the series, but OK. Better late than never. I must say, these phrases are pretty advanced and complicated, so you need some basic knowledge of Mandarin, before you want to try yourself with these. I started with the basic ones, which I made up myself, the more complicated ones at the end were found online and translated into English by the best Chinese teacher in the world: my girlfriend. Really really thanks this time for translating these quite complicated phrases.

✰ Read also my15 most romantic Chinese phrases>>

7.0 Chinese pick-up lines

哈啰！妳叫什麼名字呢？ 妳經常來嗎？
哈啰！你叫什么名字呢？ 你经常来吗？
Hā luō! Nĭ jiào shén me míng zi ne? Nĭ jīng cháng lái mă?
Hello. What's your name? Do you come here often?

我很喜歡妳的笑容，妳很可愛。
我很喜欢你的笑容，你很可爱。
Wŏ hĕn xĭ huan nĭ de xiào róng. Nĭ hĕn kĕ ài.
I really like your smile. You are cute.

我發現妳在看我。我可以請妳喝杯飲料嗎？
我发现你在看我。我可以请你喝杯饮料吗？
Wŏ fā xiàn nĭ zài kān wŏ. Wŏ kĕ yĭ qĭng nĭ hē bēi yĭn liào mă?
I've noticed you were looking at me. Can I buy you a drink?

我剛來到這裡而且期待認識新朋友。
我刚来到这里而且期待认识新朋友。
Wŏ gāng lái dào zhè lĭ ér qiĕ qī dài rèn shi xīn péng you.
I'm new in town and looking to meet some new people.

我認為妳有雙我所見過的最美麗的眼睛。
我认为你有双我所见过的最美丽的眼睛。
Wŏ rèn wéi nĭ yŏu shuāng wŏ suŏ jiàn guò de zuì mĕi lì de yăn jing.
I think you have the most beautiful eyes I've ever seen.

妳對於西方人學習說中文的看法如何？
你对于西方人学习说中文的看法如何？
Nĭ duì yú xī fāng rén xué xí shuō Zhōng wén de kàn fă rú hé?
What do you think about Western guys speaking Chinese?

我正在學中文而且我需要練習。妳認為如何呢？
我正在学中文而且我需要练习。你认为如何呢？
Wŏ zhèng zài xué Zhōng wén ér qiĕ wŏ xū yào liàn xí. Nĭ rèn wéi rú hé ne?
I'm studying Chinese and I need to practice. How do you like it?

我從未如此過，但妳實在太令人驚艷了，我必須要跟妳說話。
我从未如此过，但你实在太令人惊艳了，我必须要跟你说话。
Wŏ cóng wèi rú cĭ guò, dàn nĭ shí zài tài lìng rén jīng yàn le, wŏ bì xū yāo gēn nĭ shuō huà.
I never did this before, but you are so amazing, I had to talk to you.

妳是蔡依林嗎？我能向妳要簽名嗎？
你是蔡依林吗？我能向你要签名吗？
Nĭ shì Cài Yī Lín mă? Wŏ néng xiàng nĭ yāo qiān míng mă?
Are you Jolin Tsai? Can I get an autograph?

妳是模特兒嗎？因為妳看起來就像真的模特兒。
你是模特儿吗？因为你看起来就像真的模特儿。
Nĭ shì mó tèr mă yīn wèi nĭ kān qĭ lai jiù xiàng zhēn de mó tèr?
Are you a model? Because you really look like one.

哇，我從來沒有看過像妳這麼美的女孩。
哇，我从来没有看过像你这么美的女孩。
Wā. Wŏ cóng lái méi yŏu kān guò xiàng nĭ zhè me mĕi de nǚ hái.
Wow. I've never seen a girl as beautiful as you.

妳看起來很面熟，我們以前見過嗎？
你看起来很面熟，我们以前见过吗？
Nĭ kān qĭ lai hĕn miàn shú. Wŏ men yĭ qián jiàn guò mă?
You look familiar. Have we met before?

我曾經見過妳嗎？或許在我夢裡見過？
我曾经见过你吗？或许在我梦里见过？
Wŏ céng jīng jiàn guò nĭ mă? Huò xŭ zài wŏ mèng lĭ jiàn guò?
Haven't I seen you before? Maybe in my dreams?

妳看起來像個仙女，歡迎來到凡間。
你看起来像个仙女，欢迎来到凡间。
Nĭ kān qĭ lai xiàng gè xiān nǚ, huān yíng lái dào fán jiān.
You look like an angel. Welcome to Earth.

我喜歡妳的樣子。有很多女孩都長得很美，但妳看起來很有特色。
我喜欢你的样子。有很多女孩都长得很美，但你看起来很有特色。
Wŏ xĭ huan nĭ de yàng zi. Yŏu hĕn duō nǚ hái dōu cháng de hĕn mĕi, dàn nĭ kān qĭ lai hĕn yŏu tè sè.
I like your look. A lot of girls have beauty, but you seem like you have character.

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I will fly again.

Like almost every night, I go outside infront of our house and look at the stars. It got colder lately, but I still stand there every night and look up. It's like a ritual before sleep. It's a marvellous display of tiny little dots and I'm always mesmerized by them. It reflects my mood. I'm dreamy. Reflective. Hopeful. I'm captivated by its sheer infinity and I feel so small - my problems, desires, fears and expectations seem so insignificant. Yet, they are there. They are real. That's who I am. And then I see a moving dot. It's an aeroplane. I close my eyes and picture myself being on one. I remember the time when I flew thru the night, everyone was sleeping and I watched over them. I felt at ease.

I miss flying. I miss knowing that I will depart and arrive. I miss the feeling of anticipating the person who waits for me. The fears, the excitement, the shyness, the smiles. I miss being the real me in another country, far far away. I know I will fly again. I feel it. Zewt once said that you need to run towards something and not run away from something. He was right. But it's not easy to do so, especially for those of us, who feel like they have two homes. I think I will always travel. If you think about it - everybody does. The difference is what distance. Some people leave a small trail in life, I feel I'm destined to leave a big one. I'm drawn to the Far East and I don't even know why. Maybe it's a gut feeling. Maybe it's my past life. I just can't explain it. But how many things in life can you really explain? Can you explain love?

Think about it.

[picture taken in Hong Kong, Jan 2009]

Is it fate when two fall in love?

It's probably one of those questions that can't really be answered, but I'll ask it anyway: Is it fate when two people fall in love?

It happens so many times that two people meet, talk, get to know each other. They develop feelings, fall in love and eventually come together, even marry. A classic love story. And then you look back with your partner and you think: It must have been fate how we met and fell in love. This assumption may be right or wrong.

Here's how I see it. Either you see fate in every little thing that happens to you or you see fate only in big things in life. Or you see everything as a mere coincidence. Anything's possible, depends on your perception of reality. But let's focus on fate.

Let's say you see fate in every little thing that happens in your life. Then you're the kind of person that sees signs and deep meanings in things that may be just ordinary to others. I think such understanding of reality can be defendable, if you don't go into extremes and read to much into insignificant things. But then again, what is insignificant? It's a fairly subjective matter and it's debatable as well.

On the other hand, there's people who see fate in big things in life. Those would be occasions where someone's life was instantly changed - like an unexpected death, accidents, sickness, winning the lottery... and most likely in this group as well: Finding the love of your life.

And then we have to clarify: What is the love of one's life? We all have different criteria for that. Some people live for the moment, change partners like it's the most natural thing. They can have multiple relationships, marriages, affairs, flings and still feel good about themselves. That's totally legitimate - to each his own.

I (on the other hand) am just not that kind of man. I always get attached to the woman I love, that's why I'm looking for something long and lasting. I know this romatic concept seems to be outdated these days, but as I said many times: I am a hopeless romantic. I still hope, wish, anticipate that one woman who would be with me for a long long time or as we usually say in a poetic way: Forever!

But you can never know. Life has so many unexpected twists and turns. Who knows, if I will have these romantic expectations in 10, 20 or 30 years. But I need to live thru to that age, I need to find what I am looking for now, at this point of my life. You can't jump over to the next step. You will likely trip and fall.

But if one day when I'm old and if I happen to be married for a long long time, I will put my scepticism aside and I'll say to my wife: You know, when we fell in love and married so many decades ago, it must have been fate that brought us together. Now I know it. Because you are the love of my life, you made me happy like nobody else, you completed me and you lasted with me almost all my life. That's where I do believe in the concept of fate.

How about you?

[Photo: Source]

Verbal golden shower for phony bloggers

*Bloggers. We're all self-centred sometimes. We're all full of ourselves sometimes. We all write crap sometimes. We all criticize others sometimes...

...but the stress is on sometimes! Heck, if you do that all the time, how can you expect people will like you or that you won't attract haters? What's the point of blogging, if you're always the greatest and everybody else is wrong? Do you think people will like to read your verbal golden showers all the time?

As personal bloggers we are seldom objective, because we don't look for the actual truth, we write from our own perspectives, which are sometimes far from the actual reality. We don't strive to be fair and balanced, why would we? Sometimes we don't reveal everything, sometimes we make ourselves look stronger, smarter, funnier - sometimes we don't want to look vulnerable. That's all fine to me, if it's just sometimes. Everybody does it from time to time. But the personal bloggers I really like and admire (Andhari, Angel, Floreta, Jerine, Nashe, Rica, Sharon and Selvy), never take themselves too seriously. I've seen them vulnerable, I've seen them being sorry, I've seen them admitting their flaws and wrongs (read their TMI Thursdays), I've seen them laugh about themselves. They are never full of themselves!

And that's the kind of bloggers I truly like and appreciate. Because I, too, am as honest as I can be on this platform: I write about my highs and lows, my desires, depressions and happy moments. I can say sorry. I do learn from my mistakes. I'm aware of the things I say and I do evolve. And that's the most important thing. All good bloggers will say: OMG, look at my first posts, how silly they were. Yea, we start randomly, scribble down few emotions and post. But we evolve and mature thru time. And that's how it's supposed to be, if you want to call yourself an adult. Online and offline.

That's why I can't stand people who are always full of themselves - people who always portray themselves as the best and whatnot and everyone else, who disagrees with them (or who even dares to criticize them), will be slammed back. You can deem yourself a celeb, a smartass or a troublemaker, but you're a #loser for me! Don't you see how insecure you really are? By criticizing everything and everyone but yourself, you want to blind yourself from your own insecurities. It's always the outside world's fault and never yours. You think you do everything perfectly and you never understand why people are the way they are and why they react the way they do. However, you are the problem, not them.

How about you do a little reflecting on your own actions sometimes?
How about saying a little genuine sorry and admiting your mistakes
from time to time? It wouldn't kill ya, would it?
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Heck, I don't care about this kind of bloggers/commentators anymore. I just don't follow them. Everyone can blog whatever they want, they can even write about me. I don't care. There will always be assholes online and offline. Best is to ignore them. Life's too short. Have you ever encountered bloggers like described here? What do you think about them?

*This is not about any of you, my bloggy friends and twiens. It was triggered by various posts I've recently read on some random blogs, but it's not directed to one person in particular. I hope it can be applicable to bloggers in general who behave the way it was described above. [Photo: Source]

What do you see in her?

What's the 1st thing that comes to your mind when you see this picture?

[Model 丁晗 Ding Han, Beijing: Source]

How to attract the Chinese woman of your dreams?

*Seriously, I have no clue how you do that. You won't find an answer on my blog, I am no seduction expert. But you even may have other questions like: Why do Western men manage to attract Chinese women? How to attract beautiful Chinese girls? How to seduce Asian Women? How to date a Chinese girl? How are Chinese, Japanese or Korean women in love and marriage? Heck, you may even have questions about flings, affairs or mail order brides or even sex. But as I said, you won't find answers about these matters on my blog, I don't have an Asian singles blog, nor do I post Asian or Chinese singles dating personals.

All I can give you here is a simple advice: Learn Chinese! Learn the language, communicate and be yourself and all the questions you asked, will be answered.

And if you happen to look for some great chinese phrases, check my blog series about

Learning Chinese.

You'll find Chinese phrases and dialogues that you can use for writing text messages, emails or casual conversations. Please give me feedback, if my phrases helped you.

Thanks and 谢谢 for dropping by.

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Learning Chinese: Going to the cinema

The topic for today will be going to the cinema together with your crush or girl of interest. This time it will be a very formal description, so please don't expect a very casual dialogue. This part was put together with my dear Chinese teacher Lily, who not only translated everything, she also added her own ideas for the dialogue. So thank you very much, I really appreciate it. And I hope these phrases would be useful to those who plan to invite a Chinese girl to see a nice movie. Good luck!

[Voice file with pronounciation here and (here) - by Lily]

6.0 Going to the cinema

First you call her or message her:

你想看电影吗？
Nǐ xiǎng kàn diàn yǐng ma?
Do you want to see a movie?

是的，我想看电影。
Shì de, wǒ xiǎng kàn diàn yǐng.
Yes, I'd like to see a movie.

你想看什么电影？
Nǐ xiǎng kàn shénme diàn yǐng?
What movie do you want to see?

我们可以看爱情电影吗？
Wǒ men kě yǐ kàn ài qíng diàn yǐng ma?
Can we see a romantic movie?

当然，我很乐意。
Dāng rán, wǒ hěn lè yì.
Of course, it's my pleasure.

Besides the cinema, you can also invite her out for dinner.
You'll find the suitable phrases here.

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At the cinema:

让我们先买票吧。
Ràng wǒ men xiān mǎi piào ba.
Let's buy the tickets first.

好的。喔，队伍很长，我们必须等上一段时间。
Hǎo de. Wō, duì wǔ hěn cháng, wǒ men bì xū děng shàng yī duàn shí jiān.
Yes. Oh, the line is long, we will have to wait a while.

是的，今天很多人。
Shì de, jīn tiān hěn duō rén.
Yes, there's so many people today.

请给我两张爱情电影的票。
Qīng gěi wǒ liǎng zhāng ài qíng diàn yǐng de piào.
Two tickets for the romantic movie, please.

你想要吃点食物或饮料吗？
Nǐ xiǎng yào chī diǎn shí wù huò yǐn liào ma?
Do you want to have some food and drinks?

我想要一杯可乐跟一袋爆米花。
Wǒ xiǎng yào yī bēi kě lè gēn yī dài bào mǐ huā.
I want a cup of coke and a package of popcorn.

让我们走去找位置吧。
Ràng wǒ men zǒu qù zhǎo wèi zhì ba.
Let's go and find our seats.

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After the movie, you may ask her these things:

你喜欢这部电影吗？
Nǐ xǐ huān zhè bù diàn yǐng ma?
How did you like the movie?

我很喜欢。你呢？
Wǒ hěn xǐ huān. Nǐ ne?
I liked it very much. And you?

我也很喜欢。
Wǒ yě hěn xǐ huān.
I liked it, too.

If you want to flatter her, use these phrases.

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And then it's time to part:

谢谢你和我出来。
Xiè xiè nǐ hé wǒ chū lái.
Thank you for going out with me.

我希望我们很快能再见面。
Wǒ xī wàng wǒ men hěn kuài néng zài jiàn miàn.
I hope we meet again soon.

不客气，我到家时会打电话给你。
Bù kèqi, wǒ dào jiā shí huì dǎ diàn huà gěi nǐ.
You're welcome. I will call you when I reach home.

好的，再见了。
Hǎo de. Zài jiàn le.
Ok, bye bye, see you.

[Photo: Source]